Tuesday, December 18, 2012

On the Fifth Day of Christmas, Rock Star Jessi Gave to Me...

Please Note:  Due to the lack of available space on this site, please find the remainder of the 12 Days of Christmas Posts at  Thank you, I love you. 

To show my love, gratitude and to honor your path, I wanted to give a series of gifts.

Upon much reflection, it became apparent the best way to express this, was through the development of my own, humble version of the cherished holiday song, 12 Days of Christmas.

On the Fifth Day of Christmas,
Rock Star Jessi Gave to Me,
​Five Golden Scenes,
Four True Love Terms,
Three Heaven Sents,
Two Creative Templates,
A “Namaste” to Honor My Life.

There is one experience that will keep me up all night, thinking, dreaming and planning the experience.  Travelling.

The best part of having traveled, is sharing those experiences with others I care about.  Here are 5 remarkable places...​golden scenes​.
Rishikesh, India
Yoga/Meditation Capital of the World
The Cables
Half Dome, Yosemite National Park
The Sunrise
Mazatlan, Mexico
Train Ride
From Sacramento, To Portland, Then To Seattle
A Moment of Silence
Filoli, Woodside, CA

Think of places you have been.  Where have you lived your own Golden Scenes?  Let's think on that until tomorrow.

Rock Your Truth,

Rock Star Jessi

Monday, December 17, 2012

On the Fourth Day of Christmas, Rock Star Jessi Gave to Me...

To show my love, gratitude and to honor your path, I wanted to give a series of gifts.

Upon much reflection, it became apparent the best way to express this, was through the development of my own, humble version of the cherished holiday song, 12 Days of Christmas.

On the Fourth Day of Christmas,
Rock Star Jessi Gave to Me,
​Four True Love Terms,
Three Heaven Sents,
Two Creative Templates,
A “Namaste” to Honor My Life.

I remember what it was like to be alone for the holidays.  There were times it could be very hard.  Yet I am so glad I went through that time in my life.  I am grateful for two reasons.
  1. It means something very special to be with my true love.
  2. I learned to enjoy the holiday by myself, so my happiness was not depended on other people.
​Today, I am going to share with you the exact steps I took to find true love.

True Love Template

You were meant for love.  There is no question about it.  Love is all that matters.  Love is all there is.
Yet the first step is learning to love you.  In your uniqueness, with your quirks and eccentricities

1. Learn to Love You First.

2. Make Room in Your Life For Love.

I learned to make room by clearing out my closet, only sleeping on one side of my bed, getting two glasses of water, setting the table for two.  Listening to songs and watching movies as though I wasn't alone.  I began generating the feelings necessary to believe I was not only worthy of love but that someone was meant to reciprocate those feelings.

3.Feel What the Experience of Love Will Be Like.

4. Be Willing to Accept Love.

Yes, love can make you vulnerable.  Vulnerability can be scary too!
If it has the potential to hurt, why should we even bother?

I remember a question asked of Esther Hicks that was very similar to this.
"​Why do dogs continue to stick their heads out the car window, even when they get gnats in their eye?"
​The answer:
​"Even though there risks involved, the exhilaration of life keeps us living."
It is my hope you can take this knowledge and use it to your greatest benefit.  You were meant for love.  Always remember, you are precious.

I'll be back tomorrow with more.

See you then...

Rock Your Truth,

Rock Star Jessi

Sunday, December 16, 2012

On the Third Day of Christmas, Rock Star Jessi Gave to Me

To show my love, gratitude and to honor your path, I wanted to give a series of gifts.

Upon much reflection, it became apparent the best way to express this, was through the development of my own, humble version of the cherished holiday song, 12 Days of Christmas.

On the Third Day of Christmas,
Rock Star Jessi Gave to Me,
Three Heaven Sents,
Two Creative Templates,
A “Namaste” to Honor My Life.

When I feel exhausted, tired and defeated, there is nothing like the comfort of a hot bath to ease my senses and put the world back in perspective for me.

As a gift last year, I provided to all my loved ones a "Basket of Happiness."

Within this basket, held the ingredients to my bath.  Today, I will share these ​heaven sents​ (which are heaven scents as well).
  • Spearmint-Scented Bath Sea Salt (Promotes purifying aromatherapy and muscle relaxation.)
  • Lavender Bath Oil (Improves mood and decreases tense feelings.)
  • Milk Bath (Enhances silky, moisturized skin.)

Treat yourself to a heaven sent experience... and sleep easy with a smile that will stay with you all night long.

Until tomorrow...

Rock Your Truth,
Rock Star Jessi

Saturday, December 15, 2012

On the Second Day of Christmas, Rock Star Jessi Gave to Me

To show my love, gratitude and to honor your path, I wanted to give a series of gifts.

Upon much reflection, it became apparent the best way to express this, was through the development of my own, humble version of the cherished holiday song, 12 Days of Christmas.

On the Second Day of Christmas,
Rock Star Jessi Gave to Me,
Two Creative Templates,
A “Namaste” to Honor My Life.

Again, to represent this gift, I have two items in mind. Both have been created by hand, to demonstrate the simplicity and usefulness of each tool.

The first, I have never shared online before.  It's a brainstorming method I called Creative Caterpillar.  It takes a main idea, and breaks down the major ideas as the body.  The finer points can be detailed out through the legs.  I've provided both a blank template and a demonstration below:
Blank Creative Caterpillar
Creative Caterpillar Demo

The second item is a small-step planning tool I use called Tidbits.   Tidbits is a template which you can use to achieve your visions for your life.

There is an important question I get all the time.

"What, exactly, are tidbits?"

Tidbits are mini steps that help you get from where you are to where you want to be.  Small goals, that are realistic, but help you take that baby step forward.

Here I have provided a blank template, as well as another demo for you.

Tidbits Demo

It is my hope you can put these templates to good use as you make your way along on your journey.

All of these posts are also available on a new website, which is developed and designed for the sole purpose of honoring your path.  You are welcome to view it at any time, as the Rock Star Jessi’s 12 Days of Christmas will also be posted there.

After the kick off event for, the prior blog will be discontinued.

See you tomorrow!

Until then...

Rock Your Truth,

Rock Star Jessi

Thursday, December 13, 2012

On the First Day of Christmas, Rock Star Jessi Gave to Me...

To show my love, gratitude and to honor your path, I wanted to give a series of gifts. 
Upon much reflection, it became apparent the best way to express this, was through the development of my own, humble version of the cherished holiday song, 12 Days of Christmas.

On the First Day of Christmas,
Rock Star Jessi Gave to Me,
A "Namaste" to Honor My Life.

​"Namaste," ​is a Sanskrit word meaning "all that is good in me, honors all that is good in you."
To represent this gift, I have two items in mind.
The first, is a short passage on the subject, derived from my stay in India.  Here, I have borrowed the excerpt from a memoir I finished this year, Finding Yourself in a Suitcase.

"We took off up river, toward the rope bridge.  Many villagers were taking their dip of the day in the Ganges River.  They were pleasant and peaceful. 
          A Saddhu in his orange robes walked toward us along the river.  Saddhu’s were considered dangerous as many were escaped criminals who posed at wise men to maintain their freedom.  They changed their story as well as their names.  We tensed as the thin, unkempt man approached us.  As we approached one another, he raised his head.  Kind eyes met ours.  He greeted us with his hands together in prayer position and bowed.
          “Namaste,” he said.
          “Namaste,” we returned.
          He passed us as peaceful as a holy man could hope to pass..."

The second gift is the announcement of a new website, which is developed and designed for the sole purpose of honoring your path.  You are welcome to view it at any time, as the Rock Star Jessi's 12 Days of Christmas will also be posted there.

Thank you for joining with me today and I look forward to seeing you tomorrow.
In the mean time...Honor Your Greatest Asset...You.

Rock Your Truth,

Rock Star Jessi

Sunday, December 9, 2012

Start Your Story Series - Day 7


Fellow Writing Rock Star, you have made it to Day 7!  With any hope I won't go into withdrawals now the the series will be ending. 

As today is the final day of the Start Your Story Series, by now, you have done a great deal of the prep work for your story.

If you are not up to speed and haven't seen the series in it's entirety, Day 1-6 of the Start Your Story Series is listed below:

Day 1:  Click Here

Day 2:  Click Here

Day 3:  Click Here

Day 4:  Click Here

Day 5:  Click Here

Day 6:  Click Here

Now that you have direction and storyline, characters and you know all about them, are you ready for the final touch?

You're ready to get out of the wading pool and dive-in the deep end.  Your story will be ready for you to write that first draft as soon as you do this.

Day 7: 

Can you bullet-point some of the key experiences your characters will encounter 
during the course of your story?

Once your have your bullet-points, it will serve you as a road map. When you get lost along your writing journey, you will have your foundation for your story done.  It's not set in stone but provides a foundation for writing a successful story.

As with any story, writers must remain flexible for improvements and strokes of genius, character development, story development and opportunities to hone your craft will constantly move your forward.

I want to thank you for joining me this past week.  I've enjoyed it and look forward to releasing the entire Story-Writing in Tidbits eBook in the near future.

Until next time, always remember:

Rock Your Craft,

Rock Star Jessi

Saturday, December 8, 2012

Start Your Story Series - Day 6

Welcome to Day 6!

I am glad you are still along for this journey and I hope these tidbits have been helpful for you.

Let me know how you are doing!  Shoot me an e-mail at to share your progress with me.  Writing might be a solo sport, but it was also meant to be shared. 

If you haven't reviewed Days 1-5 of the Start Your Story Series, based on my upcoming eBook,  
Story-Writing Through Tidbits, I hope you do.  After all, it's my goal to help you reach your goal and experience the dream of having your own story in your hands.

Moving on to today... Now that you know your main characters and what your story will be about:

Day 6:

Let's talk about your supporting characters. 

Who are they?

What purpose will they serve?

How will the supporting characters help the main characters experience the things they will in the story?

The supporting characters should feel like acquaintances in your life.  People you know, are familiar with, many of whom have identifiable qualities... just ensure all of the supporting characters exist for the purpose of moving your story forward and supporting your true purpose in writing the story.

Join me tomorrow for the final day of the Start Your Story Series.  See you then and in the meantime:

Rock Your Craft!

Rock Star Jessi

Tuesday, December 4, 2012

Start Your Story Series - Day 2

Welcome back!

It's Day 2 of the Start Your Story Series, based on the first 7 days of Story-Writing in Tidbits

If you missed Day 1, you will want to check that out but in the spirit of progression, here is a quick recap:

If you want to write a book, the first thing you need to do is decide what kind of book you'd like to write.

Once you've done that, what's next?

Day 2:

What is your book about?

Thanks for tuning in and I look forward to seeing you tomorrow.

Until then...

Rock Your Craft!

Rock Star Jessi

Monday, December 3, 2012

Start Your Story Series - Day 1

Yesterday, I promised to share tidbits over the course of 7 days from Story-Writing in Tidbits; a method for cracking the code on how to help you get your book project on it's way.

Today, I will deliver on that promise.

First of all, I need to address an important question I get all the time.  What, exactly, are tidbits?

Tidbits are mini steps that help you get from where you are to where you want to be.  Small goals, that are realistic, but help you take that baby step forward.

You will see as you follow the tidbit steps over the next 7 days, your story will possibly begin to write itself.

Day 1:

What kind of book do you want to write?

You can't warm up until you know what field you're playing on.

Check back tomorrow and until then...

Rock Your Craft,

Rock Star Jessi

Sunday, December 2, 2012

Start Your Story Series - Day 5

Can you believe it's already Day 5?

So far, you've got your story idea, as well as your market in mind. You can write a story that will connect with others and the most important criteria after having a good story is this:

Day 5:

Characters make you fall in love with a story.

Who are your main characters?

What are their ages? Gender? Backgrounds?

By the time I stop writing about my characters, I feel like I know them. They become close friends, visiting with me until I finish revering their story. I can see them, hear them as though we could have a conversation.

Try to reach this place with your main characters as well.

Until next time...

Rock Your Craft,

Rock Star Jessi

Start Your Story Series - Day 4

Rolling straight into day 4 of the Start Your Story Series...

Once you've decided what book to write, what it's about and what the purpose of your story is, it's time to start thinking about market.

Day 4:

Are there any other books like the one you want to write?

If so, what are they?

How are those stories different from the one you want to tell?

You are making some serious head way. Doesn't it feel fantastic? A sense of accomplishment without feeling overwhelmed. THAT is the beauty of tidbits.

See you tomorrow!

Rock Your Craft,

Rock Star Jessi

Start Your Story Series - Day 3

It's Day 3 of the Start Your Story Series, where we are beginning to write our stories with tidbits.

Please check out Days 1 and 2 if you haven't already.

Once you have decided what kind of book you want to write and what your book will be about, there is another important item you will want to address before you begin writing.

Day 3:

What is the purpose of your story?

If you don't know where you're aiming, chances are, you aren't going to hit it.

See you tomorrow!

Rock Your Craft,

Rock Star Jessi

Leaking My Secret Project

You've always wanted to write a book, you just don't know how. But there's this crazy burning in your gut. You can't explain it, you just know there are stories only you can write.

And you know these stories will touch the world.

I've been there. Lost in thought about the difference I could be making, but the steps seemed invisible. I talked, thought and day-dreamed about it.

That is where my journey began, but not where it ended.

What if I told you I cracked the code to getting your writing project done without breaking a sweat?  Even better, I've decided to leak the start of my project, so it can help you now, rather than when I finish it.

I'm in the process of putting it together in a helpful format that can be flexible enough to work around your schedule but still accomplish your dream.  An eBook based on a 'tidbit' - sized steps to help you get the entire project done in a realistic time frame.

Starting tomorrow, I will be leaking the first 7 Days.  See you tomorrow!

In the meantime...

Rock Your Craft,

Rock Star Jessi

Saturday, November 17, 2012

Solution To Starting A Dozen Books And Finishing None

"Here's my issue: I start a book I'm really excited about and halfway through the introduction, I get a new idea and so I turn the page and begin a new story. Then, before I can even finish the second introduction, I think of a new idea... This one being just as fantastic as the first and second ideas. So I turn the page and begin writing the introduction for a third story. The bottom line, is that I start a ton of books and never finish them. Any ideas?"

This question was submitted by a friend and client of mine. It was so valid such a popular problem among writers, I felt led to share my solution with all of you.

Rule of Success:

To finish a book, you must stay focused on the one idea until it's complete.

So how do you handle the floods of inspiration when they come calling?

Jot your streak of genius down on a sticky note and toss it in a Manila envelope that reads: 'My Future Books.'

This way, those ideas won't fall through the cracks, and you free yourself to remain focused on your current work. Each project you commit to, deserves your undivided attention so it can become what you know in your heart it can be.

If you need more support and guidance, I invite you to download my 7-Day Book Writing Template.

It's true, you can have your first draft done in seven days. Check it out here:

See you there!

Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Unleashing Your Original Legacy

For my Dad's birthday a few years back, I gave him a moleskin notebook. The black notebook was the same type Di Vinci had used to record his many brilliant ideas.

I consider my Dad to be one of the most intelligent, creative and original-thinking people I've ever known.  His ideas are unlike anything I've otherwise come to know.  For his birthday, I had wanted to give him a place to record his brilliant ideas.

Since that time, my Dad took it upon himself to evolve the process by improvising the original idea with journaling.

Today, I am going to share this ingenious process with you.

Each day, my Dad makes an entry into his notebook.

Every day, he adds something to remember what made the day special.

Sometimes its:
  • Words
  • Dreams
  • A Poem
  • A Song
  • A Drawing or Sketch
  • Quotes
  • Happy Memories

The point, is that he documents his story... his journey.

If you journal or try my Dad's method, you will notice something special.

You will have recorded your very own pattern of discovery. It is this pattern of discovery you can develop into at least one meaningful story.  Be it a nonfiction memoir or a display of experiences shared by characters in your novel, you will have a place to start and share your legacy.

Sunday, November 4, 2012

A Writers Retreat

You are personally invited to participate in an online community of writers.

Here, I talk a little bit about it.


Sunday, October 28, 2012

The Halloween Haunt

THE HALLOWEEN HAUNT ( A Halloween Story by Jessi Lohman)

They were too old to Trick or Treat.

"What will we do for Halloween this year?" Max asked. He drummed his fingers on Cliff's desk and looked back and forth between his two friends.

"We could trick or treat," Trudy suggested. A mischievous smile crept into the corners of her mouth.

"Nope - not happening," Cliff said. "We are far too old. I mean, we are twenty for heaven sakes. Most people our age either go to parties, throw a party or hand out candy."

"Let's pick one," Max said. "I like all those ideas."

Trudy, Cliff and Max had been childhood friends. They had been a trio of misfits who grew up in the same neighborhood, attended the same schools and had shared similar interests.

Truth be told, they were so tight as friends, they hadn't reached out to anyone else. There were no parties to attend, as none had been invited. There were no friends to invite if they to host a Halloween Party either.

This left them one option.

"I am not going to sit here and pass out candy like I'm retired already," Trudy said.

"There are other options," Cliff said.

"Like what?" Max asked.

"We could watch scary movies and hand out candy," Cliff said. He smiled, proud of his idea.

Trudy took one look at that smile and grunted before making an agonizing sound as though she were in pain.

Cliff's smile faded as did Max's enthusiasm.

Silence came over the group. They sat, staring at one another. Minutes ticked by.

"Okay, I've got it," Trudy said, sitting up with a start.

Max sat up too with wide eyes.

"Let's dress up - in character - and act as if those characters are our real lives for the night."

"Okay," Cliff said. "But who will we be?"

"I have an idea," Max said. "We should be ghosts."

"You want to be the ghosts of our past relatives?" Cliff said. "Those would be the only stories we know. I don't know about you, but that seems kind of disrespectful to me."

"I still like the ghost idea," Max said.

"We could be ghosts and not be those of our past relatives if it bothers you, Cliff," Trudy said. It was a rare moment of sensitivity on her part.

"Really?" Cliff asked.

"Sure," Trudy said. "Let's go to the graveyard and find people to be. On Halloween night, we can gather as though those characters and interact as though we are ghosts in the graveyard."

"Oh this is going to be so awesome," Max said, rubbing his hands together.

* * *

A half hour later they stood in their neighborhood historic graveyard combing grave sites, looking for interesting ghosts to represent.

"John Star," Max said, being the first to find who he would be. "He was a doctor and died at age forty-six."

"Sounds like a good fit," Cliff said, rubbing his hand through his hair with nervousness. He looked and looked and none of the gravestones seemed to be people he would want to be.

"Here's mine," Trudy shouted. Both came over to see. "Mary Hudson. Beloved wife, mother and school teacher."

"That seems rather boring for you," Max said.

"Well of course it's boring," Trudy said. "It has to be the opposite of me."

Max laughed and looked at Cliff, who hadn't responded to the joke.

"Did you hear her?" Max said. "That was funny."

"Yeah, I heard," Cliff said. "I just don't know why I can't figure out who I want to be."

Max looked over to the larger, more established grave monuments. They had small fences around them and appeared very prominent in comparison to most of the sites.

"Let's go look over there," Max said.

The three went over and by the fourth monument, Cliff had decided.

"Here we go," he said. "William Brown, trusted banker and friend." Trudy high-fived Cliff and they ran off, excited about Halloween night.

* * *

Halloween night came and the three friends revealed their handiwork and evaluated the costumes.

Trudy, the shortest by far, had long stringy hair.

"You look more like a witch than a school teacher," Cliff said. Max slapped him on the back, letting out a long laugh.

"This was the side of Mary Hudson she never let out," Trudy said, unmoved by the commentary. "That is what I am representing tonight."

Cliff was tall and wore an elegant set of clothing, his face painted gray and sullen.

Max was on the husky side, and carried with him a large medical bag and a hat, both of which looked like a historical doctor.

Everyone was impressed and before long, they were ready to head out.

"Oh, I have one more thing," Trudy said. "I have glow in the dark spray."

The spray showered down onto the three of them.

* * *

Pulling up to the graveyard, all was still. The moon was out and full, allowing bits of light to shine through the trees surrounding the graveyard.

First they walked by Mary's grave. Trudy laid on the ground beside the grave and pretended to be sleeping. She rolled over and stretched her arms, as though waking up. She sat up, looking around and stood up, as though checking things out after a long nap.

"Oh can I go next," Cliff said.

They went to the banker's grave and Cliff hopped the fence.

"I'm not going to step on anything," he told them out of caution.

Trudy shrugged her shoulders.

"I'm not going to judge you," she said.

"I might," Max said, laughing under his breath.

Cliff hid behind the large monument and then jumped around the corner.

Trudy and Max jumped with comic relief and they all giggled quietly.

"It's funny we are being so quiet," Max said. "It's not like anyone is here."

"That's true but it's more fun this way," Trudy said.

"You mean more creepy and eerie," Cliff said, shaking his head and looking around.

"One more friend to rise," Trudy said, leading the way to get Dr. Star.

Coming over a small hill, the three stopped up short. In the distance, there was a small lantern of light near Dr. Star's grave. They hid behind a large headstone that represented many family members.

There was a hole and a head popped out. A shovel and a masked man.

"Hey, that guy is robbing my grave," Max whispered.

"Maybe we should get out of here," Cliff said.

Max and Trudy looked at him.

"No way," Trudy said. "I've got a better idea."

* * *

The man was in the hole. Sweat poured down his brow. Although it was cool outside, this ground was hard and had been undisturbed for so long. As a doctor, this grave would probably have many valuables in it.

He couldn't want to get his hands on those goodies.

The crunching of twigs was heard off to the man's right. His head jerked up. He saw nothing but lamp light.

"Hello?" He called.

There was no answer.

He went back to digging. Must be the wind, he thought.

Crunching of twigs to his left.

Again, head jerking up.

"Hello?" He called, this time crawling out of the hole he was digging.

A rush of wind ran up from behind him and he turned just in time to see the Doctor, John Star, rushing at him. His glowing ghostly shape was headed toward him, medical bag in hand.

"What are you doing in my grave?" Dr. Star snapped and the man screamed, leaving his lamp and his shovel. He ran and ran as he heard, "Come friends, let's get him!"

Daring a look over his shoulder, he saw a female ghost and a tall one come from the brush and give chase as well. He ran and ran. Jumping into his car, the man fumbled for his keys. The ghosts surrounded the car as he started it. They banged on the sides and the car squealed off.

The trio dodged off, back into the grave yard. If he looked behind them, the ghosts would be gone.

Returning to the grave site of Dr. John Star, they put out the lamp and used the moonlight to guide them.

They began filling the hole back in.

"Since it's so close to the actual coffin," Trudy began. "We should open it and see what's inside."

Max looked at her with a start.

"You are crazy," Cliff said with disgust.

"Just kidding," she cackled and they continued filling the hole.

It would be a calm night after that. As everything else went as planned.

Sunday, October 21, 2012

Slay The Writers Block Monster

A message for today to remember who you are:

1. Acknowledge your life is perfect.

2. Think of nothing but joys for 15 minutes.

3. Allow God to open what doors he might.

4. Listen for the way with an open heart.

Thursday, October 18, 2012

4 Secrets To Have a Wildly Successful Blog

This week I received a question from a professional I highly respect.

"How do you have a successful blog?"  He asked.

I gave the following response, and while I was at it, I decided to include it in a blog post for you as well.

It is by perfecting these 4 things that makes successful blogs possible.

1. Purpose

You have to know why you have a blog. What are your trying to accomplish and who is your audience?  What value do you want to give your audience. Without value, it is hard to obtain reader loyalty.

2. Consistency

When you post blogs regularly on days your audience expects, they know when to look for your new ideas and posts. Being deliberate, purposeful and consistent increases popularity and it's a great habit to develop.

3. Be Interesting

If people fall asleep reading your words, you won't make the impression you're going for.  This is another place where I will emphasize the importance of value. What can you give people they can't get anywhere else?  Choose topics your audience can relate to, things that are important to them and that peak interest.  It's also a benefit to have titles that draw eyeballs.  It only takes one click for someone to decide they like you.

4. Have a Plan

Along with knowing the purpose of your blog, you've got to know what your goals are as well. Hobby writing or business writing? Do you want to be fairly anonymous or popular?  I'm always sure to have an idea of what I'll be doing for the next 60 days.  It keeps things fresh and moving forward in a direction I want it to go.  So long as you know what you'll be posting for the next couple weeks, it puts you in a better place to achieve your goals.    

Wednesday, October 10, 2012

5 Commonalities Between All Us Writers! And We Can Do About That.

You know the feeling when you've written a great page and then...then... you have no idea what you're going to do with it? You'd like to share it, but can't, either because no one will take the time to read it or because you don't know who to ask. Or you have people who read your work, and love it, but you don't have the focus, motivation or brainstorming energy to make something out of it.

I have writing friends all over the world. We all have some things in common:

1. We LOVE to write

2. We like sharing our writing

3. We want to get better at writing

4. We want to get our work out there

5. We know support and friends will help us along the way

What shall we do?  I have figured out a solution. How does this affect you?

I've got great news.

There is a new group called "Writers Retreat."  And YOU are coordially invited to join the "Writers Retreat!"

Click and "like" the page. Welcome to our new hang out. Introduce yourself and share what your writing interests are.

See you there!

Sunday, October 7, 2012

Discovering Adventure and Happiness

I'd like to extend an invitation to you. 

When I was young, I had a fascination with all creatures, big and small. I loved to discover and even if it was a four square foot of bamboo, I treated it like a forest.

Everything in life was an adventure. I ran outside each day to make a new discovery. 

This is what I love to do. Bond with nature, discover... And now as an adult I have found many ways to share those discoveries.


A brilliant way to express yourself.  In your blog, you have complete freedom to share and explore any adventure you choose.

This idea makes me joyful. Sharing keeps us connected, involved and communicating.   
"The proof of success is joy." -Abraham Hicks 

Your joy is the single most powerful area in your life. You can make anything happen so long as you come from your place of joy. In this blog, I have a number of questions in the comments section.

Lets refer to this little get-together as a Yak Session.  I invite you to reply to the questions below, located in the comments section. 

I'd love to read, reply and converse with you about your ideas.

Much love,


Monday, September 10, 2012

Live Between Sunsets Like Mitch Albom

There are times when God brings things into your existence that are undeniable.

This is how it came to pass, I learned of and acquired Mitch Albom's, The Time Keeper. The story found me, rather than me finding it, among the hundreds of books surrounding me.

Within the pages of The Time Keeper, I found a number of the most beautiful passages...

"There is a reason God limits mans days."

"We all yearn for what we've lost. But sometimes we forget what we have."  

"The joy of living between sunsets."

Mitch's words gave me chills, as though reading William Shakespeare's Hamlet. Although, of course The Time Keeper is not written in Old English.

As Mitch was originally a sports writer, his style is very short and pointed. Yet imaginative and descriptive. His books are not very long, and with that, readers are assured that every word counts.

It was Mitch's writing style that much inspired my own. Short sentences, quick movement along in the story. Yet not skipping out on the elements that stay true and genuine to the story.

I give Mitch Albom 5 Rock Stars for The Time Keeper.  

I will continue to pick up his books, without knowing what they are about. For I've never been left discontent or unsatisfied. Exactly what I'd desire and in many cases have, with my own readers. 


Saturday, September 1, 2012

What I'm Missing For My Birthday

My Grandma Fran has been on my mind a lot lately.

I remember talking to her and she would tell me about her problems, and somehow I'd always think of something funny to say. She would laugh with her beautiful sense of humor.

"Oh honey, you're so funny!" She would say, sometimes even snorting when she laughed.

Ultimately, that's what is on my heart.

This will be my first birthday without my Grandma Fran.

Time heals everything. All of the hard a difficult moments of struggle toward the end fade into the distance. The moments that shine, glisten and stand out are the wonderful parts of a remarkable woman.

There is a piece of her in everything around me. 

When I touch fabric, I always flash back to the childhood blanket she gave me or the curtains she made me. When my boyfriend rubs my back, I relax back into the eight year old that went to sleep with my Grandma wiping the worries away and she stayed with me until I slept.

And my birthdays. All 31 of them.

She always called. Always sang. Always sent me cards. Even on her deathbed last year, she wrote me a card with her shaky hand. It may have been the final thing she ever wrote.

What I'd really like to do for my birthday this year, is to go back in time to the day before she died.  When we sat outside with the cool breeze as she slept on my shoulder with my arm around her.

We didn't speak. She was too weak, but most importantly, sometimes love doesn't need words. It just needs to be lived.

"Thank you, Grandma. I love you."


Sunday, August 5, 2012

3 Keys to Significant Transformation

This weekend I posted a question on Facebook that was sparked while reading Martha Beck's book, Finding Yourself in a Wild New World. 

"Everyone was born to have a significant role in the world. What's yours?"

There were many moving responses:

"To be a wife and mother," said Lori.
"Passion... for life, love and for animals," said Renae.
"To be a mother!" said Brianna.
"To make a difference in childrens' lives....that's why I was destined to be a teacher, and hopefully a mommy in the near future," said Carmen.
"To make people laugh," said Ryan.
"I think that it could be just to be there. As a resource to loved ones. A shoulder to cry on, or a helping hand when someone stumbled. I don't know yet what I am supposed to do here, but I enjoy helping others...," said Mike.
"I suppose at this point in my life it would be to provide the help of a families dream with a comfortable place to live and call home," said Anthony.
"Lead a healthy, meaningful, fun life," said Prabal.   

I spent the day evaluating my own role in the world. here was my conclusion: 

"My role is to be a transformational spirit 
and help others transition to places they wish they could be."

I've made, remade and remade my life over and over. Every remake has made this better and better. Positive transformation has all come down to three things:

Key #1: Be as authentic to yourself as possible.

Being authentic doesn't mean being an asshole. It just means I know my limits, my passions and I am comfortable doing them, even if I am the only one who enjoys it. There have been many times that something I was doing or an opinion wasn't popular. For example, I spent 1 full yer living like a Bohemian at a boat marina. The only things I permitted myself to have was a bed, painting materials and writing materials. I had a yoga mat, a meditation pad and books to read. That. Was. It.  The purpose of it was digging deep into my being and pulling out the treasure inside. As well as where to go next.

Key #2: Treat yourself well.

What good can I possible do, if I don't take care of myself first?  Like a cup of love, overflowing, I can only be a blessing to others when my cup is full. Who's responsibility is it to keep my cup full?  It's not my Mom's, or my brother's or my boyfriend's responsibility. It's mine. I love time with my family and friends and their support is something I appreciate a great deal, but I keep my cup as full as I can on my own.

How do I accomplish this? I do things that make me happy. I take time to enjoy a good meal, or laugh at a tv show. Dance in the rain or blast music, singing at the top of my lungs. I routinely listen to music no one else I've ever met enjoyed and take long, cleansing showers. I take baths with lavender and spearmint. I watch the sunrise and enjoy the feeling of a warm cup of coffee or tea in my hand. I hug my friends close, and compliment the things I love about them. I also compliment myself throughout the day.

Ultimately, I try to be my very best friend.

Key #3: Let Things Go That No Longer Serve You

Sometimes, people, activities or places have run their course and it's time to move on. Making room for things that no longer serve you, opens up the necessary space to allow better things to come.

Change is never comfortable and can be quite painful. It doesn't have to be dramatic or hurtful, just an embrace. A bit of mourning and grief if you must. Then set it free.

For example, I have a very dear friend. She is someone I discovered a great deal of life's most incredible mysteries. Since that time we have gone off to have adventures on our own and have grown apart. I know she still cares for me. As I care for her. However, I don't feel as though I've been a big enough priority for her. Those I consider the closest of friends, I hold dear and consider there to be mutual love and participation on behalf of both people in the relationship.  A distance between us has grown, and I have a choice. I could either reach out, or let it go.

In this circumstance, I've chosen to let it go. The relationship doesn't appear to serve either one of us. I send her on her way with love. There are no hard feelings, there is no drama. It's not personal. There is peace within. I take one long last look. Smile. Give her a sad embrace. Send her along on the journey that is intended for her.

Space been created and not one but two new friends have joined me on this journey. These friend would not have appeared had I not created that space. For that time would have been spent chasing the previous.

The same thing happens with significant others, health, spirit and adventure.

Clearing a broken relationship and creating space gives you the opportunity to begin a new one. Creating the space to exercise and work out grants a healthier lifestyle usually coupled with better sleep, more energy and general well-being.Creating time for spirit or meditation reveals truths, wisdom and knowledge not otherwise discovered. Creating time for an adventure, gives your mind, heart, soul and spirit permission to have one.  

In closing, I'd like to leave you with a message that was provided to me during a meditation recently.

"Wisdom comes from participation in life. Not just reading about it."

Cheers to authenticity, kissing yourself on the hand and shaking the ripe fruit off your tree,

RockStar Jessi

Wednesday, July 18, 2012

Impressions of Highly Effective Habits

It's no secret, I've been a huge fan of Self Help books and absorbing the wisdom of those who have lived before me, since the time I was very small. The late Stephen R. Covey, was no exception and as I benefited from his words and wisdom for many years, I wanted to take a few moments to share a handful of the habits I found most useful in applying The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People. It is in this way I wish to honor a great man who left a significant mark on the world and impacted a great many lives.

Be Proactive
Once I learned to take 100% responsibility for my life and stop blaming my surroundings for my successes or failures, I just did my personal best and learned to accept that as 100% perfect. Covey taught me there are 3 kinds of problems: 

  1. Those I have total control over. 
  2. Those I have some control over. 
  3. Those I have no control over. 

This being said, I am still 100% responsible for the way I react to something. 

Begin With the End in Mind
Developing a personal mission statement and knowing where I'm headed has been life-changing. It's hard to hit your goal if you don't know where you're going. 
"Love others and connect with them while reaching my full potential."
- My Personal Mission Statement 
Everything I do, whether it's art, writing, blogging, or whatever, lines up with this purpose. No one benefit's from being at odds with themselves.

Combine Good Habits with Creative Synergy
Synergy means the sum of the whole is greater than the sum of it's parts. Common sense, right? Even though the journey is longer, it benefits you more to have many good habits, more than just a couple. Also, when applied to communicating, you are more open to new ideas and possibilities, therefore more pliable for growth. 

Amplify Your Greatest Asset: YOU
Care for yourself physically; Educate yourself mentally; Lean, commit and don't be afraid to move to higher planes. Progression is whatever you want it to be. Inner peace, huge accomplishments or whatever highly effective means to you as an individual.

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Chewin' The Fat With Authors Who Tell It Like It Is

Three brilliant writers have come together to participate in an active chat-interview.  Meet us here,  July 11, 2012, at 8 pm Eastern, 7 pm Central, 6pm Mountain and 5 pm Pacific and be prepared with questions of your own. 

What's the scoop on our brilliant beauties:

Valentine deFrancis is a Certified NLP practitioner, author, paranormal writer, ghost hunter, chocoholic, mindhealer, seeker of knowledge, and is connected to the other side . . . demonstrated through her first book, Master of the Realm, and most recently released a romantic comedy, Note to Self.  What's on the horizon? A new adult paranormal thriller, Behind Gin Lane. How ever does she do it? We will find out.  In the meantime, you can learn more about her here:
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Gale Minchew is the author of the paranormal Young Adult Destiny Series including Shadows of Destiny, Shadows of the Past and Shadows of Truth. Other talents include being a Psychologist, a mother, wife and friend. 
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Bernadette Marie is the author of Contemporary Romance novels such as The Executive's Decision, Cart before The Horse and Candy Kisses.  She is the owner of 5 Prince publishing and is the mother of 5 boys. How does she handle it, you ask? You'll have to ask her, but it may be a clue she is working on her second degree black belt in Tang Soo Do. 
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Friday, June 22, 2012

Introducing the Book Trailer for Finding Yourself in a Suitcase

In 2003, I took a trip to Costa Rica that began a series of travels that altered my life in ways I could never have foreseen.  Finding Yourself in a Suitcase is a memoir based on these experiences.  Sometimes you make plans for life, but life has plans for you.  

Here is the first book trailer for Finding Yourself in a Suitcase: 

If you are interested in receiving an invitation for the International-themed launch celebration tour, let me know.  More details on that to follow. 

Monday, June 4, 2012

Snow White and The Huntsman - Inspires 7 Life Lessons

After dying to see Snow White and the Huntsman for several weeks, my dream came to fruition last night.  It appears I wasn't the only one with my sights set on this movie. Snow White and the Huntsman is, thus far, the 4th most popular film released in 2012. 
In all honesty, I got more than I bargained for. Full of fairies, special effects action, dwarves; From the very beginning, the movie was sharp, eccentric and attention-grabbing. 
It is never surprising to see Charlize Theron pull off a stunning performance. She is an actress with multi-faceted talents and has filled varying roles with great success from Sweet November to Monster.

It was a surprise, however, to witness the
 best performance I have yet seen by Twilight's Kristen Stewart. To hear the groans from the audience as she appeared reaffirmed critics have not been kind to her. This role, however, was challenging and she was beautiful, delightful and believable. 
Additionally, Chris Hemsworth, best known for his leading role in Thor, had never-seen emotional extremes- and he nailed them. A few dazzling moments left the audience entranced by his conflicted character.

As this film was based on a childhood-cherished fairy-tale, there were several lessons to be drawn from the experience. I've listed seven below:
1. Darkness cannot extinguish even the tiniest of flame.
2. Courage is required to create a better world.
3. A happy song can help to soothe the soul after recollection of hardship.
4. Purity and innocence is a beautiful thing.
5. Sacrifice is honorable. 
6. Power comes at a price.
7. It's never too late to change your fate.
This movie may not be for everyone, but my group enjoyed it. I'd love to hear your opinions below.