Saturday, October 29, 2011

Fond Farewells, Shaving Heads, Sassy Pumpkins & The Blair Witch

Final Christmas 2010
My mother, Judy, and Grandma, Fran
I am back to the Blog after a brief siesta to handle some personal loss.

My Grandma, Fran Marquis, passed on, at age 83.

She had stories, history and experiences to share with everyone she well as opinions (just like most people) and lots of love.  She was the person who encouraged my passion for writing.  The first poem I ever wrote, I wrote for her.  Then I went on to win 27 poetry awards for various pieces (I later included in a book I dedicated to her).

She may never have been able to stomach the sass and gruesome details of my novel, Befriending Death.  However, I can guarantee she would have appreciated the imagery of the sexiness.

I once wrote a book in my Grandma Fran's honor- Life, Love and Inspiration: A Book of Poetry.
Another recent undesirable development, one of my cousins and very best friends has received a serious diagnosis and the treatment involves a high potential result of hair loss.  When people ask me about the scarf on my head...or the hat or lack of my hair, the answer is that I am donating mine as she loses hers.  .

Rather than allow her to undergo this crap on her own, I am going to donate my hair, and will wear is shorter than historically witnessed. I told her I would support the experience so she would feel we were more part of a secret society.  She and I have been partners in crime on more than one adventure, risque location or vacation.  This will just be another experience for the books.

Once upon a time, we began recording the hilarity of our adventures with the intention of throwing a book together.  Perhaps I'll share a handful of those stories in the near future. In dire times, the ability to keep things light is priceless. 

Death is so scary to people.  I can't blame them, many believe they turn to ash when the lights go out.  I believe something very different, yet if this is the case, I'd still wish to live my life the way I do.  Even if the only people who will ever care are the handful reading this blog.  What happens beyond what I have control over...aka...the afterlife, will never take away from my wish to extend an extra courtesy or squeeze in an extra laugh.  In dire times, the ability to keep things light is priceless. 

It's amazing how people can bond on a whole new level when death is involved.  The finality of it.  In those final moments, and it was no different in the case of my Grandma... nothing is unforgiven.  All quarrels and miscommunication are set aside in response to the magnitude of what truly matter.

All that matters in final moments is Love.

Which is why My Guy and I, as well as his son, all got lost in the World's Largest Corn Maze this week.

 We spent some time reenacting the final scenes from Blair Which Project.

Two thumbs up for scoring some pretty sweet pumpkins.

Hero of the Week Move:  I figure it's better to show rather than tell.

 It's a Flower Fiesta (Okay, so I told too).

As I always try to end my blog on a happy note, I have a couple images to share that I hope will help put a positive spin on your day. It's so awesome to be alive.

And just so we are all on the same page... I'm looking forward to one heck of a Halloween Party tomorrow night!  Hope to see you there!  Thanks for stopping by and I'll see you next time!
Your Friend,


Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Look Out- I'm Writing Again! Costumes, Babies, Valuable Lessons Learned While Serial-Dating and Funny Vid's

Lets talk about something more fun. Costumes.  What are you planning to be this year for Halloween?

Please know you are invited to attend the Halloween Bash on Saturday, October 29, 2011, starting at 9:00 p.m.  It's going to be a great time and I hope you will honor us with your presence.

It will be like paradise for a night.  Speaking of paradise, of a different variety:

My inspiration has come back into the limelight.  This was brought on by three amazing friends from the past, who came back into my life recently and re-inspired my love for writing, hiking and adventure...  Kim, Casey and Katie- I cannot thank you enough.

 Being turned back on to your passion is priceless and I am thankful.

A common question I've been getting: Where have I been?

Doing wraps because they are amazing, helping waists tone, trim and tighten all over the Sacramento Valley. Granted, I'm passionate about helping people look better and live longer, but something caught my attention and I can't shake it without taking a pause to speak on a certain set of situations people are finding themselves in.

If you don't belong with someone- don't hook up with them.  Are we seriously so lonely we will sabotage the good in us by pairing up with someone who brings out the darkness in our heart?  It may feel brightened initially because of the illusion of acceptance, but I can tell you that this leads down a long, tormented road of unhappiness.


I'm not judging because everyone knows, I'm a classically trained serial-dater. However. I'm cured and life before now....sucked.  You shouldn't have to learn by making every mistake, right? 

What is the test?  How do you know whether the person you are with is Keeper-material?  It's so easy, it's like breathing and you'll know the answer right away.

How do your friends and family feel about this person?  (Most of the time) They have your best interest at heart.  They don't like who you have hooked up with, there is a decent chance you've not landed your ideal.

You want the people in your life to be cheering with all the thumbs up they can manage.  Even if you don't see it now, I hope you will in the near future.

Hero of the Week Move:

My Guy took my brother and a bunch of his friends shooting on 2 1/2 hours of sleep.  If that's not love, I don't know what it.  The fact I am so important to him he was willing to invest in creating great memories with my family and friend made a huge impression.

My phone blew up with texts: "Your Boyfriend is the F-ing Man!" and "What a Great Guy!"

Life is the most incredible thing and we all have the power to create whatever we want. That is what I'm doing now, I scratched everything.  If it isn't worth doing, I scratch it again.

If I had $5.00 for every time someone told me I would never find happiness and what I wanted wasn't out there...that I lived in fantasy-land...I'd be able to buy us all real estate (especially now).
Those Dream-Stealers Were WRONG!

I am done settling!  I want the awesome relationship, perfect health, emotional maturity, laughter and joy, wellness in my mind and spiritual connection that I can depend on and that feels right for me. I want the career I lose sleep thinking about and the means to bless all of the important lives around me.  I want a fantastic spousal relationship, great family and the best friends the world has to offer.

And I am really freaking close.  Where are you at on that journey?  Are you so excited about your future you can't sit still?  Or are you trying to figure out where to go next?  Some people are just content being where they are and that's fine too.  I only get one shot at this life thing...and I really want it to be something awesome.

I was telling my friend Katie today about an experience I had in India- a dream about mountain landscapes.

The biggest lesson I learned in India, was that our lives are not intended to be cubby-hole-style. It is like a mountain landscape that we are so rich in...regardless if anyone sees it.  The only thing that matters is that you see it.  This is a life well lived by my own description and what I am in the process of achieving.

Yet there must be laughter and joy along the way. Hope and happiness.  Giggles and silliness.  So in closing I have the following items to share with you.

Oldies but goodies.

See you next time!  In the meantime I'll be chowing on pumpkin ice cream- 'Tis the Season!